I can see exactly where you are coming from. If/when I'm divorced we'll have to see how I do with it. I might be here telling people..."this is a waste of time...don't get your hopes up"
Okay, the update. Just got back from lunch. She was visibly nervous. I asked how she was doing and she indicated she wasn't sure. Another bad sign. But I did great. It couldn't have went better if scripted. I suspected she was worried we'd have R talk and I was very good about steering the conversation to her interests. It was a good conversation. When things got slow for a moment I asked about her law plans and how to go about it. There was a point I did do more of the same when I was disagreeing with her about something, but I did listen really well for the most part.
It left off with me asking about her weekend plans and her kind of uncomfortably asking if I wanted to split the lunch bill. That part wasn't good. Overall I think we left better than we started.
Okay, now for the real dilemma. More of the same would be for me to spend time with my kids doing fun stuff and ignoring her. If she doesn't leave town I'm sorely tempted to ask her if she wants to skate with us or go to a show with us. I know....pursuing. But look at it from her perspective...."here's this guy that loves me so much that he ignores me in favor of his kids...only wants me around when they aren't". I'll think it over tonight and weigh what you guys suggest.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
