Dogma, I agree with the above response. I understand your bitterness for I have now been divorced twice...I have been the LBS TWICE! I have had children hurt TWICE! I would never even entertain taking back XW#1, but #2 captured my heart...I gave it to her when it was hardest, when I had been maimed, had my heart ripped out, shredded, dried, incinerated and the ashe remains of it cast to the winds by my first XW. I know some of the difficulties leading to this second D...some are my responsibility, some things that needed changing, some things that as I work on them and work at changing make me a better person not only for any other woman I may get involved with down the road, but make me a better father to my sons whom I am raising. The changes make me just a better person all around. Perhaps you have not looked hard enough at yourself and made some adjustments? Perhaps you are just overcome with angst, frustration and just plain pain that you can't see all that you have and be thankful for that? On the other hand, the chances of a post-D R are slim...something like only 18-20% of couples who divorce remarry each other. I have to tell you that as someone who works with numbers for a living, those are not encouraging odds, but they are still significant. I, just like Hope, want my wife back for all the reasons I married her in the first place. I just plainly love her and very, very, very deeply. I understand her a little bit better now and should we start on R, then I will strive to understand her even more so and will end up knowing her infinitely more deeply than any other person in my entire life...warts and all. It will be a friendship to transcend all earthly forces.
