I found these boards a year ago Feb (04) when my then wife moved out and later filed for D, it was final Nov. I have not been around for a very long time, because I had trouble reading about people getting back together or holding on to false hope, which I did for a very long time.
This is my first experience with a D and nothing I want ever to go through again or would wish on anyone.
But I thought I would drop by the boards and I still see many of the same people who helped immeasurably through a dark time.
But here is my opinion (for what it is worth) on the prospect, reality, chance of a post-D R. The other person left. They walked out. They quit on the R, the M, you, the family, everything. If they wanted to stay and work on the M and R, they would have. But they did not and it seems unlikely, they want to reestablish another intimate R.
I talk to her almost everyday, she calls to talk to the kids, no I never call. We see her frequently. And I constantly question the sometimes weird reasons she calls, like last night, or why she comes by, but I have to understand there is no ulterior motive. She is simply doing what she does, with no intention. I know I tend to overanalyze, but I also know there is NO chance of her coming back into my life like before. We know have a completely neutral R. And the real question is, after everything, would I want her back?
