I haven’t written in a bit so I thought I’d update. I guess I need to cover Saturday through today…I’ll just list pertinent positives and negatives
Saturday: W called in am and said they were going to the zoo, did I want to go. I ran a few errands and met them there. We had dinner afterwards which went pretty good. Later my s-son and nephew came by to play video games and I discussed all of us going to the movie with my W. Unfortunately that didn’t materialize.
Sunday: W called in am asking what I was doing. I was rollerblading with dog. The boys wanted to come back over so I said they could when I was done. Unfortunately when they did finally come over I brought up an issue that I was having. I felt that my wife and s-kids were having discussions about how they felt my kids were too mean to them (which is BS…it’s no more than sibling interactions). It didn’t go that well and she left mad. I did say that I didn’t feel anything about our kids wasn’t workable. It got only slightly nasty, but she had other things going on as well (sleep deprived, had to tell son he couldn’t play his favorite game anymore). I called later and said sorry if I misjudged…I was just trying to clarify things, but I didn’t want to be in a position of choosing my kids over her or her over my kids. So bad day.
Monday: No contact during day. I called near the end of work and asked if she wanted to go to dinner with us and maybe rollerblading after that. She actually accepted pretty happily (it seemed). Dinner went over pretty well. Good family type interaction. We all did go skating (except W who walked). That was unfortunate because we were all ahead of her most of the way. I did come back to her when we reached the end. Overall seemed pretty positive. S-son stayed with me and my kids overnight
Tuesday: W sent e-mail asking how things went with s-son overnight (he isn’t allowed this rated M game). I replied back fine and said we did b-ball instead. She called after work and asked if we wanted to get pizza and which kinds. I was running late with the boys and she actually kept the pizza warm in the oven rather than eating without us. That was sweet and I told her thanks for waiting for us. After dinner we played a little b-ball then off to my son’s music program. My wife went. Something she hasn’t done in a while. After that we went to DQ for a little icecream. Most of this night was somewhat uncomfortable…sitting next to her at the program (I kept wanting to put my arm around her or hold her hand) and then a little at the DQ. We said our goodbyes but it turned out s-D wanted to come over to stay last night too so she had to drop her off as well. The kids and I had a lot of fun…b-ball again, Halo2, and grass fight.
Wednesday: Only interaction so far…she came by to get the kids…came downstairs where we were playing Halo2…looking very hot and was very friendly.
That was longer than I thought it would be. So lots of interactions, most positive if somewhat uncomfortable. My short term goals: A really good conversation with W. Some physical contact initiated by W. So far I have done some physical including: backrub, playful tickling when she mumbled something at dinner but wouldn’t repeat it, and some playful grabbing when she was busting my chops during b-ball. I want her to initiate something physical. We haven’t even had a hug.
Any suggestions on how I can achieve these goals or do I need to wait for her? I think I need to find an interesting topic to discuss with her.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
