Any hope after divorce???

[sage]

So, are you saying you think your w is being this way because it's convenient for her? Do you really believe that? Or is it possible that she's ebbing and flowing because she's confused -- you know, two steps forward, one step back.

Sounds like you're suggesting the approach of "show her what she'll be missing by pulling away"...I've never been particularly fond of that approach, especially fairly early in a sitch (yah, I know...it doesn't FEEL so early to you but...). To me it just seems like game playing...plus you have the knowledge already that when you go dark, w takes that to mean that you are "moving on" and that expedited her decision.

I don't mean to be a one trick pony here but it just seems like consistent practice of "doing what works" and not doing "what doesn't" combined with a boatload of patience and friendship...ya know?

That being said, perhaps others will chime in with successful application of "give her a taste of life w/o me"...and I'm not using "successful" lightly here...

Sage