Sage,

I probably should take whatever avenue she allows me, and i must admit I'm also more comfortable doing the family thing also. And that gives me a chance to see the kids. I guess my ego/pride are getting in the way. I'm just pissy that she wants to hustle this divorce through. I perceive the problem to be that she is trying hard to keep me as a friend so she'll have what we have now after divorce. Right now she and the kids get me when they want me and then when she doesn't she can just forget about me. That's not how I intend things to be after divorce. I want her to get the feel of that before she files to make sure that's what she wants.


In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt