Any hope after divorce???

[sage]

I think going away for the weekend is a good idea. This will give wife time to digest everything that is scrambling through her head. Even Sage has said that if you don't know what to do, do nothing. I have found that when H and I don't speak or have contact he starts to remember the good times we used to have. As long as your wife knows the divorce is not something you want, I think giving her space is a good thing.

Hope, I missed the discussion about going away for the weekend...are you going? is she?

You can certainly go away and not have it be perceived as "dark" -- iow, if she knows you're going, if she knows you're going alone (or with same sex friends), if she knows you're not looking to recreate the single life...all of those things shine a bit of light on the "darkness". You don't have to go crazy with the reassurances, just let her know casually that you're going away and it's aboveboard.

all this may be moot since I don't even know what trip is being discussed!

Sage