We met. It was good. I did make it clear that divorce is not what I want. Basically her response was I don't want to keep having to tell you that I don't love you. Which we already knew from every previous encounter. I didn't make her tell me, just validated.
You would be proud at how well I validated. Then we discussed issues surrounding selling the house and splitting up stuff, etc. It went well. No fight in either one of us. There were times she broke up about things. She said she cared for me very much. She said that "you people on this board didn't understand that sometimes you have to let someone go because you love them." I understand that. I let her go for that exact reason. She also cried when she talked about my kids. We spent some time clarifying a few recent misunderstandings, etc. She talked to me about her improved relationship with her son since she moved out. I said I was happy for her (which I was..things had been getting fairly bad between them....it's great to see her smiling and happy when she talked about it). It was nice veering away from the divorce talk and splitting stuff up, etc. I love my house and I know she does too, but I'll sell the thing in a heartbeat if it's part of getting my wife back.
Okay, positives: 1) she's going away for Easter and she said part of the reason she wanted to get this discussion out of the way now is so she can think about what she wants to do. She left little doubt that she will consider us.
2) She wouldn't take my ring back when I offered it. (Well this could be pos or neg don't know)
3) She indicates her reasons for doing this so quickly is because she cares too much about me to keep hurting me and doubts her feelings will change. This is the most painful thing I could have experienced through this. I did really well with the conversation, but this hit hard. I really didn't like seeing her hurting like that, especially not if it was on my account. I would have given her anything at that moment.
Anyway, so I know where it stands. She still feels the "not in love" thing, but it is now compounded by a desire to not give false hope. That's my new name in Spanish btw...hope. I'm very resolved now. I am going to be the best friend she could imagine, but that's all. No pressure if possible. I will go through with the sale of the house and the divorce if that's what it takes. It's not like divorce is the end all.
Thoughts?
...Hope
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Which we already knew from every previous encounter. I didn't make her tell me, just validated. 
