I will try to describe the attitude that you need to adopt, that may work with your wife....
Picture this:
She comes to see you for this or that..( you havent seen her for two weeks)......and you are working in the yard, on the car, etc. First off....when you see her drive up, you smile and say "Hi ! How are YOU ?" Emphasis on the word "YOU".
Pretend you are a bachelor and she's one of your occasional lovers. So...if that's the case...you're certainly NOT going to talk about anything serious...or bring her down, are you ? Of course not ! Why? Because you LIKE this gal...and want to see where it leads....but you are not yet ready to settle down...and have said as much to all of them.
And you rarely CALL her. You certainly dont BEG her for a date, by asking her more than once. In fact...when you DO plan a get-together...you're cool about it.:
"Hey...Joe, Sally, Lisa and Bill are going to the XXXX friday nite and asked me to join them. You want to go ?"
If she hesitates...or balks...just say " Ok, that's cool." using a matter of fact tone.
You do this because you have OTHER options...but SHE was the first you asked. You dont want to mention other women...because any good bachelor knows that isnt cool.
You LIKE her. But she isnt the only game in town.
You are BUSY...and dont have time for any drama.
You are positive...and abhor negativity.
But you are NOT gaga over her. Not yet anyway.
You always treat her with respect and courtesy...to a point...as you do all of your women. That's why they all love you...and call you a sweety. You are SUPER POLITE..and smile a great deal. But you REALLY light up when you see this gal.
You let her know you like her by your ACTIONS. But you do not obcess about her. She is one of many. She might be a bit special to you, but...she isnt the only game in town.
You are now someone that she wants to be around....no matter WHAT her words say to the contrary.
Oh sure...there are other women after you....but you show her that you like her by your entire face lighting up when you see or talk to her. So...she does not think she isnt in the running....in fact...she thinks she may be a frontrunner....and wonders if she is. As long as you act are 100% "positive", when in contact with her....she will begin to believe it too....and come around more.
BTW, I could smack you for telling her about this site !
What were you THINKING ? ( nevermind..lol !)
She may SAY she thinks you've given up....but if she had more time to ponder it...that's when she would have begun to MISS you....and would have realized that SHE is the one setting YOU free....and had better take steps to correct the sitch before you are too far gone.
Just do your thing...and if she's someone worth keeping...she'll come around more. If not...you have lost nothing.
BM
BTW, I didnt see your previous post when I typed this one...but, after re-reading it...it may be Ok for this meeting. My advice, though is to let lawyers handle the details....and not talk to her about it at all. This way,..any anger she has can be directed towards your lawyer, and not you.
