Naw, you aren't stoooopid LOL. I think that is a common mistake people make, sometimes people don't ask that question because they don't want their SO to know they couldn't tell. It's a communication issue for sure when people don't do that.
In my talkings with my C, she indicates there is a real problem with under 24yo's taking V or its kin.
I try to understand the male POV for it's critical IMO to my situation, Very LD turned ED. I have deteriorated some being PM, but it hasn't hit as hard as it seems to hit the male. From the "reciever" POV, we are capable as F's to recieve; yet, the "male" part of the plug puts a great deal of pressure on his ability to enter the system. I am told that its akin to that hideous plateau we F's feel once in a while where the pinicle is there, yet unobtainable. This is the best that can be hoped for when the male is flacid.
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
