Quote: because I had a feeling W was finishing the job herself (I got that feeling one of the last times we ML
GEL alluded to it, too. Do you mean she gave herself an O manually while still in bed with you? Or do you mean she left the room and gave herself an O manually? What did you mean: "I got the feeling"? Were you not there in the room with her to see what she was doing.
If you mean the former (finished herself while with you), I see ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with that! I have always stimulated myself when ML. Not every single time, but just about. The number of times I have come with no direct clitoral stimulation (manual or oral) I can count on the fingers of that one hand. And I understand that I am not atypical. Her hand, your hand, vibrator, your leg, a pillow, your tongue... who cares? (But if she can give herself an O with HER tongue, time to call the Discovery Channel. )
And if you mean the latter (left the room to give herself an O) the only thing wrong with that is that either or both of you felt it necessary for her to leave the room.
An O anyway you can get it is a good O, in my book!
Surely you aren't judging yourself (and she is not judging herself) as a lover by whether she can have the "no hands" O? Tell me this isn't so.
And I guess it does happen naturally AFTER YOU HAVE LEARNED. It's like dancing or playing the piano... you practice and then later you can just enjoy the music without thinking about it so much. After you have learned, and after you have broadened your definition of what's okay.
If I've misunderstood, so sorry. This is a hot button of mine.. that it has to happen a certain way, in a certain order, and you get the "score" points accordingly. Bah!
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