GEL, I appreciate that insight. I am not telling W that I am getting the test. I am seeing IC already, so I am working all avenues to the source of my prob. I know it isn't W's fault that I am LD. She is beauooootiful! She definitely took her hits to the self esteem already. I am quietly persuing this posibility, in the hope that I can share the test results with her. If the results are normal, I will sit on them until a later date.

I am sure I am fine (well, almost), but my SD isn't. I will look into all possible reasons. Depression is a possibility. Self medication... the couple beers, worrying about performance first because I can be a quick draw, second because I had a feeling W was finishing the job herself (I got that feeling one of the last times we ML, Last year ) Waiting till we were in bed to discuss issues, NOT discussing issues, eating dinner after 9:30, not enough protien, CSA. All these things are contributing factors. All are workable, but I need a partner to work with...

I am desperately trying to find these solutions and am starting with the no blame options like hormones. I feel bad not sharing with W, but I don't want her to think I am looking for excuses.

I have my doubts after researching a bit, but the survey sez....