When will H's indecision end?

[ValerieA]

Are his folks local enough that it's not a huge hassle if you all cancelled? What if you suggested to h that you all stay home and just have a very, very lowkey day? Maybe you could all use a break.

You and I must have been coming up on the same wavelength, Sage. Before I read your reply, I thought of making that suggestion myself and did. I was remembering the many times when H wanted to do our own thing during some holidays, but we always ended up going to a relative's place.

Anyhow, I called H not too long after I originally posted this morning and gave him my suggestion. H wants to do it! H said if any of his family has a problem with it, that's just what it is - their problem. I understand what he means, and I agree. So we'll have an egg hunt for the kids, a small dinner, and everything else will be lowkey.

We didn't discuss who is going to break the news to his family. In the past, it was always me because if H did it and his mom reacted in a bad way when plans were changed (which happened nearly all the time), he quickly became irritated with her then it would blow up into something even bigger. At least when I was the "bad guy", there was peace. She still wasn't happy, but I was able to keep things calm. I would like for H to tell his mom we aren't going, but I have a feeling it will be me. That just might be best. I'll bring it up later to H.

BTW, H's family is close. They live in the next town over - only a 10 minute drive. H's mom and my parents live here in town. The rest of my family is further away - my sisters all live an hour away, and my other relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc) live a few hours away.

Thanks again, Sage, for just being there. I appreciate it more than you'll ever know.