When will H's indecision end?

[sage]

It just sounds to me that H doesn't want to spend the time together.

I guess I interpreted it differently.

It didn't sound to me as though he didn't want to spend time together...it sounded as though he was already feeling like he didn't want to do the get together with his family AND with the added pressure that you guys are dealing with right now, was big time not interested in it.

That doesn't really surprise me at all...in fact, for a while after the bomb hit we didn't do family stuff much...partly because we were in self-protective mode and partly because, truth be told, the family stuff had gotten out of hand anyway.

Your concerns about h's family talking "crap" about you if you don't go is understandable but, at the same time, you don't have to get sucked into that right? You can DB them, too, you know! No need to get embroiled in phone calls or weeping or whatever with them.

Are his folks local enough that it's not a huge hassle if you all cancelled? What if you suggested to h that you all stay home and just have a very, very lowkey day? Maybe you could all use a break.

Sage