I know how you feel. My ultimatum (even though I haven't received an answer YET) wasn't as hard as I thought. I just want to see some progress whether it is with my M or me moving on. This same old same old is driving me crazy.
Really decide what you want. You have what most of us want. A H who says ILY and sometimes wants work on your M.
I know this is hard. But think long and hard about this. I have made my choice for my reasons. If my H leaves(and I think he will) I know it will be hard and lonely. But there are things I will not miss at this point. Living with certain things (anger, mood swings, no affection, no love) for 4 months takes it toll and I am ready to move on. I am hoping my H feels that in me.
I understand your feelings about being empty. That is part of why I made my decision. I honestly do know what I feel at this point. I, too, am empty and don't think I have much more to give. This whole process is draining.
But, please, think about what you want. Your H is trying to come to terms with what he did. He needs time.
