You are doing so awesome! I just don't think I'm brave enough to go out and do what you're doing. Your H doesn't sound quite so indecisive to me. Why would he even consider staying if he didn't want to work on the M? Forgive me if I'm confusing your sitch with someone elses....I read so many of them here. I'm obsessed. At least it's taken the obsession away from me checking H's cell phone! I don't even look at it anymore.
Hang in there! You're doing a great job! You've obviously got your H thinking!