I have established that I am really good at jumping to conclusions so I might be reading too much into this one but I just can't figure H out.
Here is our current sitch: we have been getting along great and H admits he is happy we have been doing things together and looking at building our "dream" home that we will grow old in. We have been ML quite frequently and trying "different" things. When I say frequently, last week it was probably 5 nights out of the 7. Last Thursday night H said that it was amazing. We have both been enjoying ourselves.
Now the last time we ML was on Sat. night and this was more experimental than anything else. I did not get much out of it. Sunday night H went to bed early (he has always had some sort of insomnia) because he was tired and had not slept much the week before. So I tried to initiate Mon and last night. To no avail I failed. I don't know why. I asked H you are rejecting me 2 nights in a row you never reject me? He said that he was just tired not rejecting me. I said you have never been to tired before. He said don't worry I am not mad at you or anything....I am happy. I said OK sort of puzzled. H replied if I were I wouldn't have taken you guys (D1 and I) out to dinner. We had a good time. He then said something to the effect of it is sometimes nice to have a few nights off for a while, we have been ML a lot lately. I said is it too much? H said no. I said is there such a thing? he said no unless you get honeymooners burn and tried to laugh about it. I said ok and rolled over he then cuddled for a little while with me and that was it.
So what would be a reason as to why he, a HD male, wouldn't want to ML? I have been racking my brain and cannot figure it out. I also reminded him of what he had said awhile back quote- you know me when have I ever turned down ML to you? He then said do you want me to quote you. I said probably not but go ahead. So he rolled onto his back, closed his eyes, openned his arms and said ok go ahead. I smacked him and said hey then jumped on top of him and said ok and started laughing. He said I never did that. I replied I know. I laughed and got back on my side of the bed. I told him that it would help him sleep and H said no it won't.
In a separate conversation about him not sleeping well I asked if he had a lot on his mind and he said yes. I asked what and he replied that he was worried about the house, if we were getting in over our heads with the payments, if he would be able to finish it the way he said he wanted to, and he had been worried about D1. D1 has been sick and took her to the dr office yesterday. I thought she hadn't gotten rid of her ear infection but it turns out to just be some nasty virul infection she can't get rid of. At least it is not her ears again! Could these worries play a part in all of this?
So what was the sudden change of events? I know it has only been a few days but that is not what I am concerned about. What worries me is that he denied my advances. Why? Does he feel that he doesn't want me to burn out? Make it more special by less frequency? I really can't fathom why. Like I said in the beginning, I may be jumping to conclusions here but these actions are very unlike H. I hope our convo that I typed made sense-in a bit of a hurry typing.
I don't know why. I asked H you are rejecting me 2 nights in a row you never reject me? He said that he was just tired not rejecting me. I said you have never been to tired before. He said don't worry I am not mad at you or anything....I am happy. I said OK sort of puzzled. H replied if I were I wouldn't have taken you guys (D1 and I) out to dinner. We had a good time. He then said something to the effect of it is sometimes nice to have a few nights off for a while, we have been ML a lot lately. I said is it too much? H said no. I said is there such a thing? he said no unless you get honeymooners burn and tried to laugh about it. I said ok and rolled over he then cuddled for a little while with me and that was it.