Thanks for all of the great information. Especially from you folks who have had a change in your spouse. I can understand how my H would be skeptical but I have pretty much come to the understanding the HD and LD is all your state of mind. My H and I have had a good straight 4 days together and I hope this is start to a new beginning for us.
I have come to the realization I don't need to change myself but remember who I am. The person he fell in love with. I really still am that person I just lost my way through stressful situations. We are going to go see a C next week. I am sort of nervous to see what may come out of it. I asked him today about scheduling an appointment with the C and he said "so do you think that she can help me get rid of some of this anger?" I replied "I hope so." I am still a little confused on what that means. I know that it has been pent up for so long that it won't go away overnight. But why anger?
I love the tips and advice about things to do for him. Does anybody have any more tips? How do I make him feel better about himself? I completely agree with what was said about him wanting to be desired and it eating away at him for so long that it just built up resentment and anger. Now he is just so critical of everything I do and say. Although something has kind of come over him since Friday night. I am not sure what but it is positive.
As for the possible OW. My heart says that she is just a friend that he met and he likes to do a little flirting (I think he feels it is innocent flirting) and that his trip to CA is truely just for him. The way he has been talking about it leads me to believe this but I am not sure. Then my mind runs wild and comes up with all sort of different scenarios and I get panicked. I don't think there is a whole lot I can do. He never talks about her or gives me any reason to suspect anything besides the fact that I just found a few calls on his work cell phone. I cannot really confront him about it because there is nothing to base it off of.
At this point in time he seems to really want our M to work out. I think the stage that we are at right now is a critical time. Any more suggestions or advice from anybody is more than welcome!
