Thanks for the great tips. In case you haven't read my thread on the Newcomers Forum. The reason why my H says that he feels like the bad guy is that he told me a couple months ago that he had been addicted to porn, looked online, phone chat lines, strip clubs, etc. When he told me I immediately withdrew. At that point he went away for training for 3 weeks and when he came back that was when he told me he wasn't "in love" with me anymore. He is willing to go see a C with me but I have a worse gut feeling. I think that he is having an EA with a woman he met at his training. I don't think that it is physical and I have asked him. Honestly, I don't even know if I want to know. The problem is, I looked through his call log and noticed that she had been calling him quite frequently. When I asked him about it he said that was one of the friends he met. But I could tell by the look on his face that something else was going on. Now he has started deleting his recent calls on his phone so I can't tell when they talk. It wasn't every day but frequent enough to warrant concern from me. I want to confront him about it soooo bad but things have been going good over the week end. I don't want to jepordize any progress that we have made. What should I do? I don't want to attack him but just ask and see what his response is.
The OW lives 5 states away at least so I know they are not seeing each other on the side physically. The problem that I have is what if she is just a friend? Am I going to damage my M even more by asking?
One other thing. H is going to take a trip by himself to clear out his mind. I know that he likes to be away and by himself sometimes and he has talked about doing this a while back. But I can't help but feel he is going to meet the OW. He says he is going to tour baseball parks in CA. He is a huge baseball fan and is not too unlike him-but I can't help not trust him. I don't want him to go on this trip!!! There is no way to know whether it is innocent or not (or whether he is going by himself or not).
