Thanks John- We have been married 6 years-together 9. age- 29. 1 daugheter who just turned 1 it has been going on a couple years (so he says) but the bomb dropped about 4 weeks ago. H keeps changing his mind about timeframe-he has said anywhere between 2 and 3 years. One of the problems was frequency but more than that was more initiating, active participation, variety, wanting to feel desired- I am sure you get the picture.
I am trying to figure out the bigger picture but am having a hard time. This is the one thing that he tried to talk to me about in the past but didn't communicate quite so clearly or I was not wanting to hear what he was saying. Either way I can't tell you how sorry I am that I didn't get it then. He felt that I had a restriction to 1/wk. To tell you the truth it just wasn't at the top of my priority list. I came home emotionally drained from work and then tried to clean the house, etc, etc.
In return he became short with me and not there for me emotionally, especially with the little things like little hugs and kisses. He used to want to do kind things for me but not anymore. I didn't appreciate him. I just hope that it is not too late to show him how I truely feel.
I have read DR several times through already and have put some of the techniques to use. It is hard to tell what is and isn't working yet. I also am buying the SSM.
Why the guilt now? He swears no OW How is it too much all of a sudden? I don't get it
