I don’t try and adapt my responses to the wife’s needs, I’m simply referring to the reactions she has to my responses. The expectations from her list and the reality of how I’ll response are not always in “synch”. This leads to the “you just can’t win…no matter what you do, you’re wrong.”
First I hear “I need a strong man”, then “one that cry’s”, then I’m strong or I “cry” at the wrong time. When expectations are high and broad the gaps between reality, perceptions and expectations will be inevitable.
