"After being “strong” in the wrong situation or “crying” in the wrong situation ..."

I was just guilty of above! I was strong but now think I should have been tender. To me, tenderness comes easily. I am not a crybaby. W didn't want me to be tender, clearly, so despite my desire to be tender, I was strong. My prob is that by showing strength in light of my past tenderness, Is W going to think I am not being true to myself?