Whether you're a man or a woman, the best thing is to be yourself, only moreso. Find the worst parts of yourself - anger, violence, narcism, insecurity - find out what triggers it, where it came from, how to channel it in ways that won't hurt your loved ones. Find the best parts of yourself - strength, compassion, competence, introspection - and find ways to apply them to every situation and interaction in your life. Find the best parts of yourself and act from those places.
But can you really be anything else except yourself?
SM
"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment." Henry David Thoreau