being the active rather than the passive partner especially when he has initiated. (there have been many times when my partner has initiated but then rolled over on his back, laid there while I bj then let me climb aboard, while he does not a lot, then when I'm finished let me continue bj til he's done ) I don't mind this at all if I have been the initiator - it's the tap on the shoulder - hey I need sex but I'm not prepared to do much about it bit that gets me down.
The role of protector is a big one, both physically and emotionally, stand by your woman, let her know you are there for her.
Not whinging or sulking - just lay it on the line if there's something you're not happy with by all means yell if need be but then calm down and let W assimilate the information without continued simmering.
If W asks "how do I look?" when she's all dressed up she wants a compliment and a little constructive criticism - she does not want "Yeah - great" without really even looking and she does not want something totally negative. If it is great then look at her properly - goggle those eyes and say WOW! If it's not so great say - "Yeah - great but you know what it needs and then suggest a small change - different pair of shoes or some jewellry or something. Just to show you're paying attention.
NEVER steal W's sayings, jokes, witty remarks, smart ideas etc without attribution especially not in front of her.
NEVER lie to company to make a story sound better when W knows it's a lie. That really makes you a mouse not a man.
Cry if you need to - no problem there.
Physically active stuff is always manly.
That's it for now. Unfortunately H is not all that manly I'm afraid. There have been many times when I just look at him and think you wimp. But he can't help the way he is and I try not to worry about it - after all I picked him. But it's when he does the manly testoterone stuff at me when he's angry that makes me mad, why can't he use some of that where it's more appropriate?
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
