Peanut: Sorry to hear that your mate reacted that way. I haven't seen your earlier posts on this situation. Have you read SSM ? One of the first lessions is that LD's are not always that way out of spite. As for your leaving, will a breakup stress the kids more or less than seeing Mummy being struck by her bf and carted off to the hospital? Throwing things and striking inanimate objects has me concerned.