Quote: She claims that I say things 3 times. But that I say things from three different angles for 3 different audiences. The first is the simple, high-level, abstract statement, the second is more literal and detailed, and the third is an example.
This is good teaching. You hit three different ways of understanding. It works well in a classroom. Although it sometimes irritates those who understood the concept when you first presented the abstract way.
Quote: putting longer pauses into my conversations.
Yeah. We struggle with him letting the pauses go longer and I struggle with trying to share my thoughts more quickly.
So you really want your W to share her thoughts with you? When she does do you feel the intimacy more? See, I've been complimented on being a good conversationalist when I've barely said a word. I've mostly just listened. People have said they feel very close to me when truthfully they barely know me, but I know alot about them. So I guess I'm wondering if my sharing more of my thoughts will only lead to a greater sense of intimacy for me (not a bad thing at all!) But will he feel more intimate too? (I'm practicing. I intend to talk with him about this.)
I think I was using sex to try to increase the intimacy I felt and it wasn't working. I got excited when SSM said that some people experience intimacy via sex (rather than sex being the result of intimacy.) I thought "Oh, goody!" Easier for me than the talking more! Guess maybe I don't get off so easy afterall.
Using Nopkin's machine analogy: We were two whatchamcallits with warps in complementary directions. Rubbing against each other increased our warps. Machine looked like it was working fine as a whole, but the two whatchamcallits were scratching their heads saying "something doesn't feel right." Okay, mutilated that one sufficiently.
