Hi Dave,
You posted that your C thinks the BB takes intimacy away from the M? Is that correct? I think I agree with him or her, if intimate thoughts (not only the intimate sexual ones) are shared here but not with your SO. Anything that I've thought about as result of this BB, I've been making an effort to share with my SO. Sometimes, okay lots of times, it hasn't been easy, but it's been good when I've screwed up my courage.

Are you the primary talker and your W the primary listener and responder in your R? Those are the roles my SO and I have. I'm the listener, responder. I prefer my role. Intimate conversations, as a listener, have always been important to me. But I'm making an effort to talk more, important stuff not fluff. It really isn't easy for me. Wine helps . A good listener on the other end helps too. You should see the two of us struggling with changing our conversational roles . Okay, I'm rambling. Why am I writing this? I guess I was wondering if this sounds familiar to you?