I have seen some posts but can't remember Ellie's sitch - there are so many people on here it is sometimes difficult to remember all of them.
Today has been really weird, I've been walking round smiling thinking 'Yes! He said ILY and bought me a present!' and then on the other hand I have spontaneously burst into tears twice, thinking, 'OMG, why does she have to be their grandmother?'
I'm just sick of her, basically, and I think that with every R there comes a point where you have to admit you CAN'T make it work.
I tried with my mother for 11 years, by trying to discuss things rationally, by shouting to get my voice heard, by not telling her stuff about my life. (I found when she didn't know what my going on in my life and it was very superficial, we could get on enough to have a vague friendship). I tried defending H, I tried not defending H, I tried counselling techniques, I tried cutting her off for a bit and ot answering her calls (later found out this is DB'ing, didn't know at the time). I tried getting H to talk to her, I tried appealing to her husband, I tried to get her to be impressed by my work so she would like me (bad move - she's never read any of my books and told me I shouldn't be working when I've got babies as that's 'neglect').
I didn't hear from her for 10 months and then she invited me over on 28th Dec 03 and I went there, like a fool, and she screamed at me about why did I have 4 children and they'd be better off dead than with me or H. I even forgave her for that as I was about to walk out but she started crying and begged me to stay so I stayed.
A couple of weeks later I found out she'd written that letter to the court (retaliation for the row we'd had) and I just ran out of will to try anymore. I mean, what can you do with a person like that? Most people have nice attributes you can link into and at least try to get on a similar wavelength with.
I am completely stumped with her and don't even want to understand her anymore and I think she is detrimental to all of us, especially the kids as she can start on the next generation now.
