Yes people's perceptions can be different to reality. I thought 'inmyplace' on here was a woman the first time I spoke to him!
H was brillant to me, I would say probably 96% of the time. The other 4% when he wasn't so good, he really put me through the mill.
He proposed on an aeroplane. Guys listen up, if you get re-married to your spouses, propose on an aeroplane, it's so romantic!
We were on our way to Greece and the captain announced on the loudspeaker that H had something to ask Jo. Well, I looked round thinking 'he can't be talking about me! He must mean someone else.' But then my H took this diamond and ruby ring out of his pocket and asked me to be his W ! I just started crying and saying yes over and over again and then the captain said 'she said yes!' on his loudspeaker and all the passengers started cheering
We got free drinks from the air hostess and had another 2 weeks of sun, sea and sex in total paradise. We had a balcony overlooking the mountains...now that's romance!
The thing is, he kept up this kind of thing (and I tried to do the same in return) for as I said, 96% of the M, so you can see why I got depression so badly afterwards, I mean, who would want to give up that?
Of course he got really nasty afterwards (I think really nice personalities have really nasty flip-sides). And my family who I had always kept at arms length, moved in for the kill after he'd gone.
I kept forgiving all the time because they are family, but in the end she did something so bad that my forgiveness and willingness to try just ran out. None of the DB or conselling techniques I learnt had any effect on her and even my atty said 'if she was my mother I'd never speak to her again.'
I have evidence, if my kids ever want to know why they don't see her.
Luckiy they have a good R with H's mother, in fact, his family, despite his parents D, are quite close knit.
