RE Vanessa post re-written to suit my situation ----------- I have the same concerns about my W or family members stumbling onto my thread. I am extremely open and I know at times because my W has different rules, that she sees this as a flaw or even as being "EXTREMELY DISLOYAL". I am considering some changes that I need to make.
W knew about DB and even saw the many other books for 3 months of our difficulties. She didn't read any of them, and I could pretty much guarantee W has never visited this site. -----------
Ioavva ----------- You think my H would kill me in an honour death??! ----------- No way Jo. I was just thinking if his personal or religious belief system condoned any type of revenge. You guys sound very reasonable to not enguage into dramatic steps.
I was concerned because some people justify getting back at someone who according to some personal beliefs or practices, that she/he deserved the xyz punishment because he/she acted some way in the past. Not always physical but mostly verbal or attitude things.
---------- I'd be in pain and it's difficult for the other spouse because they have to keep making allowances - living with a person in pain is not easy. ------------ Sure puts a damper on how one proceeds on a daily basis. I have been on both sides and found it difficult to determine what to do some days. One day the pain was severe, a couple of days later the pain level was low, and a few days later the pain was up again. This up / down pain cycle makes it difficult to plan ahead and is confusing to the spouse.
---------- My H is a vegetarian because he doesn't want to take an animal's life. --------- I think like that sometimes but have a difficult time thinking that way around meat eaters. We do have a couple of vegetarian cook books and have a Seventh-Day-Adventist friend who eats eggs and drinks milk. The immitation meat products made from soy beans are good but sometimes produce intestional gas.
When I cook using meat I sometimes put in half of the meat the cook books suggest. Sometimes I subtitute beans for part of the meat or I add textured vegtable protein (TVP) made from soy beans.
There is a local restaurant near a cattle processing meat shop that advertises 20 ounce steaks. That is not me so I don't go.
----------- 'It would be far too dangerous to have that much money on my life. For half a million quid, ------------ Good reply Jo.
I passed the life insurance salespersons test but found out how much half truths are used to sell life insurance. Many life insurance companies only pay out 38% of what they collect. The rest goes to advertising and sales commissions. If a persom really needs life insurance and is in a higher risk group companies have ways to not insure those type of clients. And there are the people who quit paying then reapply but at a higher rate. Insurance companies like those people.
