female version ????? of guys *visiting meowa* hot dog! Way to go. I like the part where you make him work a little.
------------ Once it has got to the ML stage, I then get very assertive, 'do this to me', -------------- Nice move. I would like to hear something like thst too.
I have been getting my W to state her opinion about our R in concrete terms. Making her describe specific actions or things she needs from me. I got several "I don't knows" and said I can't work with i don't knows. She mostly complained that she felt I am to opposed her. So she described one situation and I said I was not opposing her but was asking her if she would consider not taking her opinion so far that it left little the other person could do except totally bow out of the interaction.
W's opinion about the topic we were talking about did not change. I hope she sees I am on her side but not as far right or left as she is. Anytime I have a slightly different view on things, W thinks I am against her. She tells me I am trying to control her. So after 3 hours of this draining conversation and off and on fighting, we were both tired and went to bed and cuddled.
