Thanks Kevin,

Sometimes he gets scared of the R and I think, should I be ML with him or not? There are varying opinions.

I think I must be unusual as a woman because as long as he's fulfilling my need to talk etc then I also use sex to express my love for him.
I only go off it if he isn't talking to me properly. I view it as the ultimate means of saying ILY so I guess maybe I'm more like a man in that respect?

In fact, even in the M when we'd had a row, it was the first thing I wanted to do to 'make up' - it was and is my way of connecting with him. It's the same for him as far as I can tell.

The only exception being if he doesn't pay enough attention to other aspects of my life, then my drive declines.

I will make a point of borrowing that book from the library. Mars and Venus goes into this subject quite a lot - you should difinitely read that, and '365 ways to keep the passion alive' (also by John Gray).

You really made me laugh about the cold shower.
Thanks for that, Kevin and my advance apologies to Tag who will probably hate reading my update.

Jo.