I'm sorry to hear about your printer problems. Hard to believe that we all had to do this stuff on typewriters not too long ago.
Thank you for your opinion about my sitch.
Quote: I looked at your current thread. I read your letter to your W and from a woman's point of view, I thought that was romantic. I am not surprised your W cried. I sometimes wish my H would do something similar. However, I think that should be the only letter.
When W said it moved her, I felt like there is still some emotion there. I had a FF that said I shouldn't read into W keeping the letter. That women keep sentimental things. Doesn't add up to me, though. And, you're right, no more letters. W knows how I feel now. She may not have before, but I can leave it in her court for now.
Quote: She does not - in my opinion - sound like a woman who is terribly sure of D. First she started off saying there's no hope and then she went to MC, not the actions of someone with 'no hope'.
True, but it was a "one last time" thing, IMO. She said she didn't want to get my hopes up by going. I think she just wanted a neutral site to let me know her feelings (which I offered in the letter). She didn't go to the counselor to work on our R.
Quote: She is hurting and she felt hopeless, but as I've said before, nothing is ever final apart from death.
I believe everything you've said in my heart.
Quote: One thing I will say is, men and women communicate differently so maybe your W did try to talk to you before but perhaps you didn't hear her? If you haven't already, read 'Men are from Mars, women are from Venus', it's really good at explaining how men and women think.
You're not the only person that has suggested that book to me recently. It will go on my must read list. Thanks for the suggestion.
Quote: I'm not sure what sort of advice you want (I'm better at solution focused advice) so if you've got any specific questions you want to pose that you think might help your situation, I would happily give my perspective.
If I think of something that I need a solution for, you'll be the 1st person I ask. Thank you for the offer.
Quote: But speaking as a woman, I think your W still loves you.
I would love to believe this more than I do. I think you're right to a degree. I think that W still loves me, but is lost in feeling like she's "in love with me", which we all know is something that ebbs and flow over time in a relationship, even a great one. I guess I wasn't particulary "in love" w/ her towards the end or right now, for that matter. I just know I love her and I think we should try to regain what we have lost.
You asked for specific questions, so:
What makes you think that my W still loves me? What gives you that impression? I would just like to hear your opinion and any "solutions" about how I handle that.
Thanks again for everything. You really are an angel.
