Still working on the e-mail to D. I don't want us to escalate things into any more ugliness if I can possibly avoid it.
David,
I have read your e-mail several times trying to be sure I am not assuming or jumping to any conclusions. I think I have responded to what you were telling me, if any of this seems off then I misinterpreted something and please clarify for me.
What I signed was a transfer form printed off of AQHA's web site. The horse info can just be written on from the form we filled out for the duplicate registration.
What are the steps between where we are now and the house being sold? I have not been party to any discussion on getting this accomplished.
When have I refused to put the house on the market? I'm not aware that you have ever asked me about it or discussed it with me.
I was told in August, morning of, that B was coming to see what needed done to put the house on the market, not that she was coming to list the house. She gave us a list for the outside that needed done and I got an estimate on the painting. I sent you that information and never heard anything back. She did give us an appraisal on the house at that time.
When have you asked me, since the one time in August when I was in the middle of moving, to have B in the house?
During B's trip to the house in December you and I did not talk at all about the house. When we left, your final words were, "talk to you later". We both needed to get back to work and I assumed when you said that you meant we would discuss what she said needed done and what we wanted to do to the house to get it ready to list. I have not received any contact from you on either listing the house or discussing what B said needed done to list the house since we were there in December.
I mentioned your buying me out of PK and received one e-mail from you. I responded at least a couple of times and did not receive a response so assumed you weren't interested. Are you?
Take care, Pam
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
You guys are making me work really hard by myself on this one!
I thought maybe all the questions sounded very defensive and possibly argumentative. Hopefully this sounds better or is it too indirect now?
Hello David,
I have read your e-mail several times trying to be sure I am not assuming or jumping to any conclusions, as we both know I have had a tendency to do in the past. This is what I understood was happening as we went through this process in regards to what I think you were saying to me.
What I signed was a transfer form printed off of AQHA's web site. The horse info just needs to be filled in. AQHA does not have forms for transfers that are preprinted with the horse information.
I was told in August, morning of, that B was coming to see what needed done to the house before putting it on the market. I did not understand she was coming to list the house at that time. She wrote up a list that needed done on the outside. I got an estimate on the painting that I sent to you and didn't hear back on. She gave us an appraisal on the house at that time.
I don't remember us discussing B being in the house since the one time in August, or your asking or talking with me about putting the house on the market.
During B's trip to the house in December you and I did not discuss the house. When we left you said, "talk to you later". We both needed to get back to work and I assumed when you said that you meant we would discuss what she said needed done and what we wanted to do to the house to get it ready to list. I have not received any contact from you regarding either listing the house or discussing what Beth said needed done.
I asked about your buying me out of PK and received an e-mail from you which I responded too at least a couple of times. I did not receive a response, so assumed you weren't interested. Are you? That would be my preference because of the emotional attachment I still have to PK.
Take care, Pam
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Decided I needed to go ahead and get a response sent as I received the e-mail from him last Wednesday.
This is what I ended up sending:
Hello David,
What I signed was a transfer form printed off of AQHA's web site. The horse info just needs to be filled in. AQHA does not have forms for transfers that are preprinted with the horse information.
I was told in August, morning of, that B was coming to see what needed done to the house before putting it on the market. I did not understand she was coming to list the house at that time. She wrote up a list that needed done on the outside. I got an estimate on the painting that I sent to you and didn't hear back on. She gave us an appraisal on the house at that time.
I don't remember us discussing B being in the house since the one time in August, or your asking or talking with me about putting the house on the market.
During B's trip to the house in December you and I did not discuss the house. When we left you said, "talk to you later". We both needed to get back to work and I assumed when you said that you meant we would discuss what she said needed done and what we wanted to do to the house to get it ready to list. I have not received any contact from you regarding either listing the house or discussing what Beth said needed done.
I asked about your buying me out of PK and received an e-mail from you which I responded too at least a couple of times. I did not receive a response, so assumed you weren't interested. Are you? That would be my preference because of the emotional attachment I still have to PK.
Take care, Pam
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Monday I received a letter from the A's office that is handling the incident with J's van. They had received a letter from her insurance company that their claim against me was paid in full. J still has 2 years to file an injury claim but it isn't looking too likely with this much time having past already. We have not heard anything from the Prosecutors office yet but hopefully if we do we can show them the letter from the insurance company that I have made restitution in full and they will just let it go at that point.
Last night I received a letter from the A that handled my divorce in response to a letter that I sent her in January. She is claiming to remember what happened with David differently and did not address at all what she may or may not have said to me. But, regardless she is offering to give me a 50% reduction in my bill if I pay it in full in 60 days. Maybe that is because she is being nice and maybe that is because she does feel she didn't do her best job protecting me in this divorce. Either way I believe I am going to take her up on her offer. That way I no longer have to worry about getting something from her in the mail every few months! That will be one more thing settled and closed.
One step at a time, right?
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I am getting better at spending time on things I write rather than just going with the first thing off the top of my head.
I spent a lot of time on the letter to the A back in January. In the past I might have just paid her and not tried to do anything else about it.
I am glad she decided to be helpful about it. It will be a good feeling to have that closed out!
I wish the deal on J's van was closed out as well, but at least we have the letter from the insurance company and I am just trying not to worry about it.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I am going up on Friday in the morning and spending the night at the farmhouse. This is VERY untypical Pam!
I think there are going to be maybe five of us stay over and we are to bring a pitch in dish for dinner. What the heck do I take? I don't know about heating something, I assume that is a possibility. I could take a cooler and probably take something that I need to keep cold.
So what do I take??????
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Girl, I am proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone. Just keep yourself open to the experience, relishing it for whatevert it turns out to be.
Well, what do you like to make?
You could make something the night before, take it in a cooler then stick it in a crock pot or something to heat it up.
Chili, sloppy joes, italian beef all come to mind in the hearty foods category. Or you could bring some other part of the dinner like dessert (easy to transport) and a salad (no heating required).
I'll try to help more if you need something more specific.
If you are going to be "worried" about it could you call and ask what the provisions are for re-heating?
I don't want us to escalate things into any more ugliness if I can possibly avoid it. 