Sorry. That is rough. The Christmas and Christmas eve thing every year is not fair and I wouldn't sign off on that. They are your kids to and deserve to be with you on holidays, especially Christmas. Most people alternate holidays. I would suggest one year you get them on Christmas eve and she gets them on Christmas day, then the next year switch. Don't sign on anything that doesn't feel right. Hang in there Russ, be strong. You can still DB even separated. I just recently read someone's post where their WAS came back after being divorced a year. It does happen. Detach, GAL and move on. Be a friend but don't let her take advantage of you. I will keep you in my prayers. Keep checking in. I was worried about you.
Nothing new to report. H is still being fairly happy around the house. Of course I haven't brought up the topic of him choosing. The kids will leave on Wed to go to grandparents. So, I will wait and talk to him after they go. In fact, he said we will drive them to Brennan and meet his parents halfway. I am sure the we is more out of habit and him not wanting to explain to his parents why I didn't make the trip. So...for now I wait.
Thanks Sherry, One thing I should say is my sons birthday is dec 24. turns 7 this year. as for GAL, Bought a new road bike....one u pedal. Looked into doing the great white north in edmonton. May sign up to do IM canada for next year, and may travel to Lake placid and do IM usa. Or maybe Florida? Thanks for the note about the success story. Nothing I can change but me. How about you, enter a local 5 Km or other, how about a tri a tri. where do you live and i will find one for you. Crossing a line after committing to the goal is amazing. Just starting is uplifting. So????? Rusty
I know how you feel about not knowing from day to day what is going on with H. I too find it very confusing. One day we talk about ending it, the next day he is hanging around and accidently called me babe. It is hard to make plans for tomorrow let alone a week from now. I am hoping for your sake that H is starting to realize that you really will move on without him. As for me, this type of behavior between us has been going on so long that I dont think it will end unless I end our R all together. I have been acting like she doesnt exist since July with the occasional convo about us, but nothing. We do have a bond together it is obvious to not only me but to others, but H just doesnt want to stop. As my mother put it this morning, rather harshly, Stop living in H's shadow. She is right to a point. I wait for H's reactions and do whatever accordingly. But I am trying not to. I have been doing ti so long it is hard to stop.
Just checking in before I crash. You're hanging in there. I just don't get the indecision on his part. At least my WAW made the decision to WA. Go have some fun tomorrow or else some of us might have to come to Texas and straighten you out!!
