I think I agree with your mom on this one. Dont move away just yet. It could be so final, unless that is what you want. I just dont think you want that just yet. You want just like me, an answer. Our H's really need to get together, it seems they handle things EXACTLY the same. Never an answer as to what they want. I think they want us to make the decision for us. At one point a few months ago I told H I wanted a D, but I wanted him to do it. He said fine I am not going to fight you on this...But he never did anything about it. I feel like when I read your posts it is my sitch playing out too..Your frustration knowing OW is in pic and not going away, your H's indecision, it just mirrors me and my sitch. So believe me I know how frustrating it can be. That is why until you KNOW for sure what you want to do, dont move away. It could be the end. I think just like you tho, that if the R with OW is going to continue it is not fair to be in the same house getting to live the life and have your cake too. I just cant get to the point of saying it (I've said it - leave if you are not going to stop - I just said it last week) and then actually follow thru. So right now my words are empty, so I am just going to keep trying to GAL until I see some sort of change. I think I might have a deadline in mind of our Anniversary in April. It certainly wont be a good one...He doesnt even kiss me anymore. Whatever you decide, we are all here for you ok
