Thanks for the advice and the prayers. I need both.
That weird thing is that he is acting normal at home, laughing, joking, teasing me. I plan to continue to DB but I can't continue the way things are, not with summer looming ahead.
I can handle the talking to ow but can't go back to the sneaking off to see her. I can't deal with a PA again. Some people can, some people can't. I know my limits and this is one of them. Right now H goes to work comes home at a decent hour, he doesn't run to many errands. I am pretty certain it is just an EA and nothing else at this point. I won't have that assurance during the summer. When he is gone for a few hours and I know he will (I can't expect him not to), I will always wonder if he is starting to see her again because he won't be seeing her at work. I can't live that way.
So you are right, I had to do this for me.
I like your thought of this being a 180. It really would be a 180 for me, his mother and a good friend think he pretty much make the decisions in the house. I guess to some extent they are right. So me putting my foot down and saying make a choice is definately not more of the same.
Since getting over my initial hurt, I have been lovingly distant. Today has been much better. I feel okay. I know that may change but I know no matter what I will be okay.
Unsure, thanks. I will definately leave the door open.
I don't know if I can watch his actions. His actions at home would have indicated that he was lessening contact with ow. He didn't appear restless at home. He barely went out to run errands. I was leaving the house a lot more and I think he used that time to talk to her. So my GAL gave him the opportunity he wanted without having to sneak around. He also calls her from work and going to and from work.
The part about him liking kids was young kids. He teaches 7th graders. He likes that age group. He can joke and be goofy and they think it is great. He would not fair well teaching elementary. He doesn't have the patience.
