Someone earlier said I did this out of fear. I really don't think fear was the factor.
I don't know if you're referring to what I wrote, but if you are, that's not what I wrote. So, just in case you are referencing my post, let me explain. I wrote that the motivation for someone to act on an ultimatum - not give an ultimatum - is fear. In other words, you gave an ultimatum to your H. The only way it has a chance of his decision coming down in your favor, is that he's fearful of losing your relationship, losing you. I wrote that such fear makes a lousy reason to love someone, because basically they're being with someone out of fear of losing them. That's not a great basis for loving, and sooner or later, that could wear thin and you find yourself in the same mess again.
That's why ultimatums should only be used as a absolute last resort, and really, if there is so much abuse that one's foot has to come down.
you are better than this knucklehead
Dodger, I'm not picking on you by writing this, so let me throw a question. If we're calling our WASs derogatory names, then why, for Pete's sake, are we saying we love them and trying to get them back?
