Wow Sherry, you sound like you already have some bounderies in place, like no Easter Dinner. Thats gonna be a shocker to his family. But you let HIM tell them, not you. I am sure they will call you (my inlaws did) . At that point you can be as suportive as you want to be, or not at all. I agree that your H will get some sticker shock once he has to live on one income. Sounds like you are mentally prepped for taking care ofyou/ your children financially and thats a good thing. Its good that you are prioritizing. As for the actual filing and D stuff, if he wants it make HIM do it. I know you don't want him draggin his butt till summer, but you can tell him that if he wnats this (and you agree) he needs to do it , and start promtly so that you can care for yourself and your children and adjust without too uch upheaval. If you DON'T wnat all of this, you may just want to see if it will blow over. Our D went through rather quickly (no kids, no alimony, no contesting) but his OW is still waiting and she filed on November 16th! She has 2 kids, and has filed for support, and here they have to go to child view classes. Her H has not gone, and has not paid any support cause it has not been ordered. How do i know all this? Public information, sadly enough. BUT- my xh told me that her d is being held up cause her H doesn't want the court to know how much he makes or where he works. What a crock o' crap.If they order you to tell , ya gotta tell. Period. Either my xH is lying to me, or she is lying to my xH, but the truth is its just sitting there, stalled. No one persuing anything. I feel thats gotta make my xH question it after a period of time." Hmmm you made me get a divorce ow you are draggin your butt getting free from your H? " You sound alot smarter. Before this goes any further though ,PLEASE examine your heart and mindset. Make sure this is what you really want. If he is unyeilding and you cannot deal with it, I don't blame you, and neither will anyone else. Tomorrow is guaranteed to no one, and I am finding out being miserable every damn day loses it glamour after about the 100th time you've cried your eyes out. We are all here for you if you need us, so don't forget that.
