Returning DBer - previously Mfl *** long post ***

[holdingon]

Yanni,
You know my xH threatened to D me for a long time. I don't know what eventually led him to actually file. Maybe just the time frame. But I know in my heart that I did ALL I could do, including telling him I was sorry for my part in all of this.

I never wanted a D, so I never filed for D. I do not think I could live with myself if I did.

As long as he is not threatening you, or spending all of your money, you might as well sit tight.

There is nothing liberating about D, nothing easy, nothing healing. Lawyers are awful and out to line their own pockets... the more you argue, the more money they make.

Live your life as if you were D... Let him do the dirty work.

Hang in there.