Quote: I don't know if you should file or not. How will you feel if you do? It might be liberating for you, it might make you feel guilty. You need to decide what is best for you.
It would make me feel guilty. I told H that if he wants a D then he can file and I will sign. I'll just go along with that at the moment.
In the meantime I'll just make my applications based on the funds I have now. If things change then I'll just have to rethink things. Can't use it as an excuse to do nothing anymore.
Since telling me over two weeks ago that he wasn't coming to see S3 I haven't heard from H. Now, I'm not surprised at this because I did tell him that things couldn't be the same way between us anymore, but I am surprised that he hasn't called about seeing S3 or even to talk to him on the phone.
I'll send him a short e-mail asking when he would like to see S3. Nothing else just about our son.
Yanni, You know my xH threatened to D me for a long time. I don't know what eventually led him to actually file. Maybe just the time frame. But I know in my heart that I did ALL I could do, including telling him I was sorry for my part in all of this.
I never wanted a D, so I never filed for D. I do not think I could live with myself if I did.
As long as he is not threatening you, or spending all of your money, you might as well sit tight.
There is nothing liberating about D, nothing easy, nothing healing. Lawyers are awful and out to line their own pockets... the more you argue, the more money they make.
Live your life as if you were D... Let him do the dirty work.
Hang in there.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
