Hello Sage

Yeah, he's always been confused

I'd pretty much felt like "talking" about getting a life on the BB was stopping me from actually getting one. So I did.

My son is almost 3 now and he is the best boy in the world of course - sounds like he has swallowed a dictionary and has an incredible sense of humour. And of course he is beatuful.

I stayed friendly with H and he has rubber banded back and forward. I suppose I was DBing passively. A few months ago he really came forward, coming round when it wasn't his days to see S3 and talking about us doing all the stuff that needed doing to the house. He even asked us to go on holiday with him. Turns out that this was during one of his "not seeing OW" periods.

Then the latest development. Either he got scared or she came back and this time with conditions ie: boot the wife once and for all Who knows? Who cares??

I told H that this time I really felt it would be healthier for all of us (OW included) if we only maintained a friendly contact with regards to our son. Not all the phones calls and visits and birthdays and playing online games together.

However, the usual pattern is starting again he has left 3 messages on my phone this afternoon along the lines of "I just want to know how you are.....if you don't want to talk to me (sniff..sniff..voice breaks up here) please send a text so I know you are ok". I don't want to be cruel and have him worry about me but if I call back it will just lead down the same road of daily calls "to see how you both are".

Arrghhh!! Listen to me, and I was all calmed down to

Did I mention that my son is beatiful?