I'm not here to gloat. I'm not any better or smarter than any one else on this thread.
But I am going to re-recommend my mental attitude. I finally go to a place where I was confident enough in my self and my value where I didn't fear getting divorce. I told my wife that while I didn’t support the idea of a divorce, I was going to start getting really angry with her if I kept trying and she kept on staying indecisive. I told her that she had two weeks to make her decision. I told her we needed to start working together one way or another. Either towards resolving our divorce in the way that best served our daughter, or towards rebuilding our relationship. I told her that I was prepared to be successful and happy whichever way things turned out.
I then prepared myself to be happy with a divorce.
Friday night, my wife told me she loved me and that she realized she needed to give our marriage a genuine chance before she went looking for a better relationship somewhere else. She apologized for having caused me so much distress over the past several months.
I told that she was also going to need to make some changes in order for me to agree to stay in the marriage.
Things have not become instantly perfect. There is still a dark cloud over the house. There are still no guarantees. There’s going to be some work and irritation over the next several months.
But there now some measurable progress.
In order to keep my wife, I needed to quit trying to keep my wife.
