I thought your advice was outstanding. I think that if my H followed your man o steel plan, he would feel more invigorated and hor-nay.
He does not take care of himself. He gives and gives and then wants to get all greedy and selfish when it comes to ML. It's as if THAT'S where he will draw the line but everything else, his guilt wins out.
Last night I was trying to use a breast pump and read at the same time. This was not working, as I was trying to turn the page with a baby bottle in my hand, using the pumping funnel apparatus as a page turner. I looked like a fruitcake and H took pity on me. He then stood in front of me and turned the pages while I read, stating that I was pumping to bring up my milk supply for OUR baby and he wasn't going to leave me to go it alone. He is an outstanding husband. I do wish he'd do more things for himself, tho. I baby him as much as I can but I know he feels drained most days.
