KEB, Isn't following my lead like the blind leading the blind? I may be turning into a man of steel, but I sleep in a big empty bed. I am not suggesting that you ignore your concerns. I am simply saying that if you don't have evidence, don't accuse. If you do have evidence, you NEED to expose. My exposure led to complete denial, and the next day, after W had her weekly DC session, she moved to spare room. She seems to make all of her moves after the DC (I mean IC) sessions, like cancelling cell billing, moving to spare room, ugly stuff.
The "me" work is the real work to focus on. Focusing on your flaws, accepting them, and then learning to compensate for them is the only way through this mess. Whatever love you have left after loving yourself, give to W. (don't get nasty here folks, I am on a spiritual thought) She is not responsive, and I know what that feels like. But if your GAL plans work, and you become a bit harder and stronger, she will notice. If she doesn't notice immediately, you will, and it will enable you to continue on course.
I personally don't know if my plans are working, but they are all I have for comfort beyond this helpful lot. I speak only for me, but if I can keep myself on course, it is a HUGE boost to my hope for M.
