Thanks FixIt! Your advice is most excellent!! In my self-pity, I had forgotten about the 27 year-olds!! Not that I plan to go and seek that right away but it does offer an appealing alternative at some point.
I am still committed to this marriage. I made that clear to the W last week. I will continue to fight for what I believe is right but I won't get bogged down in it. Like I said yesterday, I need to continue focusing on my goals...I was doing that a month ago when I started all of this. But, I lost the focus because I made some progress on a couple of them...one of my weaknesses for sure.
One thing I don't want to do FixIt is to convince myself that my life was unhappy with my W. While it could be easy to do, it wouldn't be beneficial to a positive co-parenting arrangement. So, I'll hold off on that for a while.
One final comment for the HDWs...last night, I had a small taste of what my W went through for FIVE years! As you know, I've been sleeping in the bedroom...and making sure to touch my W as much as possible (romantically and not so). Anyway, last night I fell asleep and woke up about two hours later (12:30ish) and she wasn't in the bed. It felt lonely. I could hear her in the living room watching tv or sleeping herself. It was even more lonely. SO, I did that to her for FIVE years. Man! How stupid am I!? If I felt lonely after only one night...
BUT, instead of just lying there lonely, I got up and went to her and asked if she was coming to bed. Which she did by the way! Maybe, if she would have done the same. She never talked about being lonely. I honestly thought (thought being the key word) I was doing her a favor by not keeping her awake with my snoring and my need for the tv. She never made it clear that wasn't the case. But, hind-sight, eh?
Anyway, just thought I'd share that insight with you all.
FixIt--great post as always!! Thanks for the buck up! K
