I have been following your situation. I wish I had time to try and help you, but my time here is very limited, and is about to become even more so.
I do want to briefly address your recent concerns. I know that you have a serious plate-full to deal with. Even so, please add to your reading list the following two books; "Surviving An Affair" by Harley and "Love Must Be Tough" by Dobson.
The things I have written to csw will also apply to your situation. Additionally, you will want to consider the issue of STDs. This is an important discussion to have with your wife before you are intimate again. A condom will not protect you from all STDs. The most common STD is HPV (genital warts), and it is readily transmissible, even with a condom.
I am sorry that what I have said will likely be tough to swallow. I could also be wrong. Follow your gut on this one. You have to make your own decisions.
Please do continue with the progress you have made, and in the changes you have made to yourself. The folks that have been posting to you have given you excellent advice.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
