KEB, I kinda agree with Jenny on this one. I have read things in your posts that have a 'tone' to them that your wife is not entitled to feel the way she feels because a lack of sex is not a reason to leave a marriage. I would strongly encourage you to drop this line of thinking. You don't have to agree with her, you simply have to accept the fact that she feels that way.
The all caps yelling that she's leaving you over sex and the "every whim" has a bad tone to it that leaves me, as an HD wife, feeling like you are discounting her feelings and sorta discounting that it is a legitimate viewpoint. I realize that you are beyond frustrated and dealing with some heavy sh*t in your life so I just left it alone. But, truly, if you are to repair things with your wife you MUST leave this type of thinking behind.
A lack of sex is a legitimate reason to leave a marriage. Even a marriage that is otherwise good. Period, end of story.
I cannot imagine how helpless and angry you must feel but, hey, so far I've been called on the carpet for every less-than-flattering image I paint of the LD world at large, so you should expect the same when you minimize the HD viewpoint.
Especially since you are outnumbered by bossy women.
Hang in there and I'm sorry to hear of the latest developments in your situation. It is not the end of the road--you've just created a fork..with the creation of the new KEB..and now your wife is faced with a decision. Keep on staying strong and confident and attractive and she will naturally make the right choice.
