Quote: I meant to reply to this when you first posted it. I think you have to decide for yourself what the situation really was in your relationship. Did your wife have insatiable sexual whims towards which you were just slightly inattentive or did you sexually reject her on a regular basis, make only half-hearted attempts to rectify the situation, continue to use MB/porn instead of satisfying her needs and perhaps even make some uncalled for remarks in defense of your male ego?
First of all, I take offense to the tone of this quote. You guys have been frank and to the point before but in this case, you are being down-right rude.
Now to answer your question, I think it is somewhere in the middle of the first two options above. She didn't have insatiable appetites but I was also less attentive than I should have been. However, I never--repeat, NEVER--made uncalled for remarks to rectify my male ego. I was loving and attentive in every way I was capable of at the time. Could I have done more? Of course, but it's always easier to look back and see.
So, I can answer honestly for myself that I am on the verge of change and very capable of it. I've faced some hard facts about my life in these last two weeks. I am having to get a grip on all of that along with trying to rectify a failing marriage. It takes it's toll.
