Thank you for your encouraging words still alone and once AGAIN NY. Thanks for trying to give me a little of your wisdom. I really am trying to just treat him as I would a friend. That little voice is still in my head saying, don't fall for his niceness around here because it will only upset me more when I find out he is still calling the OW. I know, I know.....not the right attitude. I did call H and tell him of our change of plans. He didn't say whether he was going to TKD or come home. Guess I'll just have to wait and see... H just called. The dinner meeting he thought was tomorrow is tonight. So he's off the hook to decide whether he wanted to come home and hang with me or go to TKD. He did say that since the dinner meeting is tonight then he'll be able to just come straight home tomorrow night. OK, feeling a little better. It seems like I let things get me down so easily...like the being turned down in the bedroom thing last night. It's funny, last night when I was typing all of that in, I was SURE that meant he was probably leaving for sure. His voice sounds so different today. Maybe it's not his voice...maybe it's my ears. You are all really wonderful for listening and giving your takes on my situation. I would have never dreamed that I would be getting help and encouragement from total strangers!